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Rabu, 29 April 2020

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Kapan kita menikah :3 ?

Menikah berarti kita sudah berada di dermaga cinta yang akan siap mengarungi lautan yang penuh rintangan. Hanya cinta yang sungguh sungguh yang bisa melaluinya. Membicarakan tentang pernikahan, kapan kamu akan menikah? Aku sendiri belum begitu merencanakan. Kalau dibilang kapan, mungkin ketika aku sudah berumur 26/27 th. Beberapa teman pernah bilang padaku, katanya terlalu lama menikah diumur itu. Ahh itukan kata orang. Tahun ini umurku 23 th, apakah 3 atau 4 tahun lagi aku sudah siap dalam ekonomi ataupun mental? Rencana Tuhan siapa yang tau? 

Fyi, aku mempunyai geng yang terbentuk sewaktu SMA. Kita berjumlah 8 orang yang mana perempuan semua. Dua diantaranya sudah menikah (yang satu sudah punya anak, yang satu baru saja menikah sebulan yang lalu). Dua lagi sedang merencanakan pertunangan. Sisanya sedang survive dalam kehidupan, termasuk aku. Aku juga mempunyai sahabat laki laki yang sekarang sedang bekerja di luar kota. Waktu itu dia bilang akan berencana menikah tahun depan. Namun sayang sekali, cintanya kandas ketika sebelum sempat melamar pujaan hati. Semoga dia segera bangkit untuk mencari pasangannya yaa. Selain dia, aku juga punya sahabat laki laki yang lumayan genit. Namun jangan salah, dia sudah berpacaran dengan pasangannya selama kurang lebih satu windu. Gila luar biasa lamanya kan sudah seperti lagunya Tulus, tapi mereka belum juga menikah. Ngomong ngomong tentang pacaran yang lama, saudaraku juga pernah mengalaminya. Dia sudah kenal pacarnya sejak semester 1 di perkuliahan. Sudah 5 tahun berpacaran, akhirnya mereka putus. Sebuah perjalanan yang menguras tenaga bukan? Setelahnya saudaraku memutuskan untuk menikah dengan temannya sewaktu SMP setelah ksbb dan tentunya karena rencana Tuhan. Sudah capek membaca kisah yang melelahkan? Haha aku juga punya sebuah cerita pernikahan yang sepertinya dengan 3 kalimat saja bisa langsung selesai. Tetanggaku (cowo) adalah orang yang sangat pemberani. Suatu hari ketika pulang kerja, dia bertemu tetangga depan rumahku (cewe) dan menawarkan tumpangan untuk pulang. Di perjalanan pulang itu, dia langsung melamar si cewe untuk dijadikan istri. Langsung tanpa fafifu si cewe pun menerima lamaran tersebut. Selang beberapa bulan, mereka pun menikah. Bahkan sampai sekarang, cinta mereka tetap langgeng. Tanpa kalian sadari, ternyata butuh 5 kalimat untuk menceritakan perjalanan cinta mereka hehe.


Oh iya awalnya aku malas menikah karena aku pikir akan rumit. Namun, ibuku bilang, pasti akan sangat membahagiakan hidup dalam keluarga baru, bersama orang yang dicintai dan pastinya juga mencintai kita. Apalagi ditambah beberapa anak pasti sangatlah seru. Berdoa dan berusaha, kelak pasti akan ada waktunya. Dalam proses pernikahan ada yang disebut pacaran. Pacaran itu bukanlah ajang gengsi untuk dikejar ataupun mengejar ngejar (berarti berlebihan) pasangan tapi, untuk mempertahankan dan memberi kenyamanan. Sampai sekarang aku belum menemukan yang benar benar pas, karena tidak ada manusia sempurna. Aku hanya sedang bersyukur untuk apa yang aku miliki. 

Sabtu, 25 April 2020

The Mother of Nature

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The Mother of Nature

What are you doing if you are bored? Because of happiness is not come in every day or in even every second. As a human being, sometimes we are in the top of sadness or boringness. Every person has their own way to refresh their mind or how to be happy.  Here, I have special activity which usually I do to throw my bad feelings away. Enjoying the scenery is the answer for me. I like going to the hill, beach, river or garden to enjoy the view of natural scenery. Enjoying the natural scenery is better than watching a movie. It doesn’t hurt my eyes although I see for a long time. Then, enjoying the natural scenery is good to overcome my bad feelings because it can entertain me when I was stress. It’s not only entertaining, but also healing.
One of my lecturers said that there is no one who can heal your sadness except the mother of nature which helps your mind thinks clearly. Nature has a power of healing; my sadness, wariness, emotion and others of bad feeling. Just start from sitting and watching the view. Your mind will talk to you just about the positive side. Your soul will be as strong as your back bone. Here, when the mother of nature is hugging you, you can cry, scream, and tell about everything which is stuck in your head badly. All of problems that you have will be solved by the mother of nature.
To get the good view, usually I go to the hill or to the beach with my friends. Actually it’s good to go by yourself, but we need to be careful. Furthermore, as a women it’s better for you to hang out together with your friends to avoid something bad happened. Imagine that one day you went to the hill to refresh your mind, but you went by yourself. Suddenly, the tire of your motorcycle leaked because of the route was bad. So, you needed to find someone else to help you. In this case, a man is needed for helping on your problem. It’s because a man is physically stronger than a woman. Another problem is the man who wants to robe or to rape the woman. Vice versa, the man can be the enemy for the woman. Because of they feel stronger than women, men are not afraid to do something dangerous and their target are the women.
 According to Miller AE, et al (1993) the upper body strength of the men are more than the women. It’s proofed by the data that he got; the data suggest that the greater strength of the men was due primarily to large fibers. The point is the men have bigger muscle than the women, so that the men are stronger than the women. So, it’s better to hang out with your friends.
Let’s get back to the main topic, enjoying the nature scenery is not only good for our mental but, also has a role for our social media. We can take pictures with a great scenery background. Then, you can upload it on your social media and you can caption it with moral value that already you get or learn from your problem, for example; “The beauty dew in the morning is always gives the best atmosphere for us to have a good conversation”. It will boost your post become a trending topic. Unfortunately, nowadays the people awareness to conserve the nature is decrease. Many people don’t care how to love the nature. It’s looked from several green places in Yogyakarta become hill of trash scenery. One of those places is Piyungan. If you have the same hobby with me, let us together take care our nature from the small thing, such as planting flowers, chili, watering plants, use your reusable bottle.

The Empty Building

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The Empty Houses

Not only a few of Indonesians who don’t have a proper house. In Yogyakarta, the place where I live, there are several people who sleep inside the cart because they are homeless. Sometimes they sleep at the overhang of the store, but where can they stay if they don't have a home? While on the other hand, many people left their homes or buildings to be left neglected.
When I tried to find a new boarding house in Yogyakarta, I saw many houses or buildings that had been left but still standing. There are many houses that are not habitable and some are still in good condition. The empty houses which have good condition are commonly left by the owner so that look spooky and empty. However, buildings that have been neglected and are not habitable, usually the owner has a new house and no one takes care of the old house. In fact, the building will break on its own.
Indeed in Indonesia, every person who has a house is obliged to pay land and building taxes. However, the authorities pay little attention to whether the building is still habitable or not. Supposedly, if there is a house which is not inhabited or has been left, it is better to demolish the building because the empty house may give bad impacts in the surrounding. The following is the impact of the existence of empty and neglected buildings:

1. The building can collapse on its own
Old buildings will be dangerous for the surrounding environment, because the building's physical condition starts to become fragile. At times the building could collapse on its own. In fact, the building could collapse about the surrounding houses. It can also be about people around the house.
2. Buildings can be used as a place of crime
Empty buildings are very likely to be used as a place to commit crimes because they are very quiet and not so much noticed around. Many incidents such as murder, robbery, confinement, and rape are carried out in empty buildings. Maybe it can also be used for drug transactions.
3. Goods inside the building can be stolen
If a house is abandoned without carrying goods, it will cause the thief's desire to enter and steal the goods. This happened in April 2019 in the Mataram sewer area where I live. When my friend left, he did not bring his belongings or rent his house, so the thief entered and stole a TV.
4. Buildings can be a nest of dangerous wild animals
Builds that have long been neglected, will be overgrown with many plants and look very lush. This attracts wild animals to enter inside, such as snakes, monitor lizards, and dengue fever mosquitoes. These animal animals endanger the surrounding environment if they bite people who live around.
It must be a lot of reason behind that phenomenon which is happened in Yogyakarta. To find out the reasons, the writer already interviewed six Javanese people who are living in Yogyakarta to get the valid data. Four of them said that they want to have the new home separated from their parents. They want to learn how to build their new family without depending on their parents. Trying to solve the problems with the new family is good for the new couple. The new couple will grow mature and develop together in the new family without a lot of parents’ intercession. In some cases, if there is more than one family live together in a house, they will talk behind their back. It makes the new family members don’t feel comfortable. Then, the participants also said that living with the new family in a new home it proofs that they are already success. One of the participants said that she wants to live with her mom letter because her mom is a single mother. So, she wants to take care of her mother. Another one, she also wants to lie with her parents because she wants to take care of them in the future when they are getting old and need someone to depend on.  
Moreover, to minimize the increase of empty houses, as the new couple should be open-minded and pay attention to the future plan. They should think about where they want to live, with whom they want to live, and don’t forget to think about their parents. Don’t let your house become empty and useless because there are many people need places to live in.
Actually, my family also has two empty houses that are not inhabited. Both of those belong to my grandparents. The children decided to live with their own family, that’s why the houses are empty after my grandparents passed away. So, to make sure there is nothing bad happens in those houses we visit the house every week. If you don't have time to visit it, it's better to pay someone to take care of the house so that the four bad things above happen. Another way, you might rent your house to others who don’t have a home because a lot of people outside who need a home to take shelter, but they don’t have. Don’t leave your house in an empty condition because a house also needs to be taken care of. One small cat changes coming home to an empty house to coming home –Pam Brown-

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